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Men should be more involved in maternity care.

Long gone are the days when the father would be in the waiting room handing out cigars, but this crap about involvement from the RCM is just patronising gibberish.

Midwives are being asked  to make more of an effort to involve fathers-to-be in maternity care.
The Royal College of Midwives (RCM) says too often the dad is left out of the process.
It suggests top tips to help include the father, like offering him a chair as well as his partner, during antenatal appointments.
And staff should prepare the man to be a helpful birth partner, so he knows what to do in the labour room.
The 16-page guide Reaching Out: Involving Fathers in Maternity Care is a joint publication produced by the RCM, the Department of Health, the Royal College of Obstetricians and Gynaecologists and the Fatherhood Institute.
To address the issue of fathers being the "invisible parent", maternity wards should provide men's lifestyle magazines to help make fathers feel comfortable, the guidance suggests, and antenatal classes should be arranged around their work commitments and even football fixtures, it says.
Football fixtures FFS? Any man who would prioritise football over his pregnant Mrs does not deserve to be a father. Besides, isn't that terribly sexist? There would be a feminist uproar if it was suggested antenatal classes should be scheduled around shoe shopping. Not all men like football; I bloody hate it.

Maybe men don't feel included because they no longer are. Read any MSM story about children these days, be it the rising cost of childcare, pressure of raising children, school issues, discipline etc, there is never any mention of fathers or even parents. It's always mums, mothers and pregnant women.

Family has no meaning anymore and fathers are always left out. May as well go and watch the football.

17 Comments:

Anonymous said...

If the midwife asks for your help just tell her you've done the hard part, the rest is up to the women.

Anonymous said...

Childbirth is not romantic. It is messy , bloody and uncomfortable. And potentially lethal.
A man will only get in the way and spead germs.
He should be out earning a living. That is what it is all about.

JuliaM said...

"Besides, isn't that terribly sexist? There would be a feminist uproar if it was suggested antenatal classes should be scheduled around shoe shopping."

Ohhh, indeed! I can hear the deafening screams from the 'Guardian' now. Who knows, it might even knock their current love-in with the Occupy fiasco off the top spot...

Bucko said...

Anon1 - Like it :-)

Anon2 - Sounds like a sensible philosophy

Julia - It may be a contender :-)

Angry Exile said...

There would be a feminist uproar if it was suggested antenatal classes should be scheduled around shoe shopping.

Of course, and quite right too. It should be scheduled around sandwich making in the kitchen.

And I hope Mrs Exile never reads that.

Anonymous said...

"antenatal classes should be arranged around their work commitments and even football fixtures, it says."

Too bloody right. My firstborn arrived in the world on Christmas day 1994. 24 hours later and I would have missed it having to attend the all important Manchester City v Blackburn Boxing Day fixture.

Mrs Exile said...

Thanks for the email Bucko. I'll deal with him later.

Bucko said...

Henry - It still got in the way of your turkey and stuffing.

Anonymous said...

Bucko, not really. Sprog was already a week and a half late so we decided to do the turkey & stuffing bit on Christmas Eve - just in case.

Bucko said...

Ahhh, you see. That's forward thinking :-)

James Higham said...

Yeah, men can do more. They can stand outside the maternity ward with a coffee and wait.

Bucko said...

And a cigar...

Xen said...

'It suggests top tips to help include the father, like offering him a chair as well as his partner, during antenatal appointments.'

I think you'll find he's already had his partner.

Anonymous said...

How can they involve the Fathers ?

Most of the time the Mother doesn't even know who the Father is.

Perhaps they should just then invite all the 'possibles'

Bucko said...

Xen - maybe he doesn't want to find her

Anon - That would require a lot of chairs. Maybe they just don't have the room.

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